"I'm glad you stopped reciting old chapters and began writing a new beginning."
- Dr. Thema
There's an extremely popular (and powerful) Peggy O'Mara quote that says, "The way we talk to our child becomes their inner voice.”
For those of us who grew up with a narcissistic mom or dad, our inner voice is not comforting, empowering, validating, or kind. It's critical, unsure, mean, and unrelenting. Even with all the personal development, reading of books, retreats, and courses, it can still be hard to shake the negative thinking. Here are 30 statements of affirmation you can meditate on whenever you're needing a little boost!
30 Affirmations for the child of a narcissist
I'm capable of making good decisions for my own life.
If I make a mistake or something doesn't turn out how I envisioned, I'm strong and smart enough to navigate that.
There is a lot to love about me.
I am not a burden.
I add value to the lives of others.
6. I am in control of my own life.
7. I do not have to let people talk to me in ways that undermine my value.
8. My worth is uniquely mine, and I don't need anyone to validate it.
9. I have the tools and the resources to create a life I love living.
10. All the generations coming after me can know love and acceptance because of the changes I can make.
11. My home is mine, and it is safe.
12. No one has the right to tell me I didn't experience what I know I experienced.
13. My trauma responses and expressions of grief are valid, appropriate, and nothing to be ashamed of.
14. Just because I'm still healing does not mean I cannot help others along their healing journey.
15. Rest and relaxation do not have to be earned.
16. I will intentionally show myself kindness, gentleness, and grace.
17. My brokenness does not disqualify me from happiness.
18. I can leave any relationship that harms me.
19. I can forgive myself for decisions I made and things I allowed when I was less in tune.
20. Gone are the days when I had no say in things that pertain to me.
21. I am safe and secure. My parent can no longer harm me without my willing participation.
22. Anyone would be LUCKY to have me in their life.
23. I am going to stop second guessing myself. I'm not an idiot.
24. I am justified in my decision to put space between myself and my parent.
25. Just because everyone does not agree with a decision I make does not mean I have to change my mind.
26. I am powerful and capable.
27. I deserved to have someone protect me from the abuse I endured. I can take the necessary steps to protect myself the way I deserve now.
28. With practice, I can learn how to establish and maintain the boundaries I need for a peaceful life.
29. Now is the time to discover the voice I was never able to have. I will have fun seeing how loud it can be and exactly what it wants to say.
30. I can grow, change, and heal to become the person I've always wanted to be.
(Which was your favorite?? Tell me in the comments!)
Wishing you peace and healing
xoxo